Craig is a tall year-old with a quiet but confident manner. He recently left his local comprehensive in a gritty part of south London with good GCSE results and wants to do an engineering apprenticeship after his A-levels. He pulls a face when I ask if he or his friends have ever watched pornography. I don't think we watched it in the way it is supposed to be seen, you know, it was something to laugh at because it was outrageous," he says, clearly speaking in the past tense. Harry, 17, first saw pornography online with friends when he was "about 13" and reckons it is a normal part of teenage life. I've seen some crazy things online," he says.
'Any boy who tells you that he hasn't seen porn is lying. Porn changes what you expect from girls'
Boys and Porn: What's Normal? - FamilyEducation
This post was contributed by a community member. The views expressed here are the author's own. I have wrote previous articles about the old stereotype regarding what it takes to "be a man" and how this stereotype negatively affects teenage boys. This stereotype typically leads young men to become sexually active in middle school, according to the current research data, and it also leads to a sense of isolation. Teenage boys have been lead to believe they should be prepared to handle life like a grown man. However, they are not fully mature nor are they prepared to handle everything on the own.
One of the mistakes parents make when they learn their teenage son has been viewing pornography sites on his computer is to punish him by taking away his computer. This is a mistake, as it may send the message that sexual feelings and exploration are wrong and bad. Rather, as a parent your intent needs to be to instill a healthy view of sex and belief that sexual desire and exploration of sexual thoughts and feelings are healthy. I have found that often mothers are concerned that their son either is or will become a sexual deviant and that his behavior is inappropriate. These reactions may sound like a stereotype, but I have found this as the typical reaction that mothers and fathers have when discovering their teenage son is viewing porn.
Fact: Boys consume lots of pornography: online porn, videos, cable TV, magazines, and virtual reality games. Fact: Adolescent boys of all ages are viewing much more soft-core and graphic hard-core pornography because of its easy access and presence on the Internet. Questions you may have: If you discover your son visiting online porn sites, watching X-rated videos, or reading hard-core pornographic magazines, should you be worried?